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12 Oct

Saying goodbye

Last week I felt as If I was totally lost. Looking out over the ocean back home in Cape Town I found myself adrift in a sea of grief. I felt overcome as I struggled to make sense of its immensity.

I have gone through life with a certain sense of luck; lucky to be surrounded by those that I love and who love me back, lucky to be alive. Along the way I have been empathetic to those who have lost someone close to them. I stood by their side when they needed me. I felt their pain. Nothing, however, prepared me for the loss of my lifelong best friend.

This experience has changed the way I look at the world and has made me realize that there is not always going to be a ‘tomorrow’. We have our time in the world and that time is sacred. We need to make the most of every moment because every moment we use our energy not doing what we were put into this world to do is a moment misdirected. If we only imagined our lives like a blank canvas we might see how important it would be to fill in the space with broad brush strokes and fine detail, all the beauty and color of the world. I know my friend wasn’t finished with her canvas. Through my life I hope I can help fulfill hers.

Cherish the life you have and appreciate those around you because you never know when it may be the last moment you have with them. I leave you with a heavy heart but next week I will continue the campaign with my new look exploring the architecture and history of San Francisco’s Sentinel Building.

Trench: Thoki Tafeni, Dress: TopShop South Africa, Shoes: Woolworths South Africa

“On the death of a friend, we should consider that the fates through confidence have devolved on us the task of a double living, that we have henceforth to fulfill the promise of our friend’s life also, in our own, to the world.”
― Henry David Thoreau

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  • Kim Commins

    Well written Toks! So hard to lose a friend, We all love you and miss you so much.

    October 13, 2016 at 9:50 am Reply

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